Keep your home organized. Have babies, but not more than is socially acceptable. Be independent. Rely on your husband. Put your husband in his place. Build him up constantly. Don’t spank your kids-it’s abuse. Spare the rod, spoil the child. You’re too fat. No, you’re too skinny.
WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE?
It’s no wonder being a woman is so dang hard. When we look at everything society tells us to do, it’s just impossible.
But, guess what…. Society sucks. Yep. I said it. I’m a rebel. Just kidding… Sort of.
Did you know that EVERYTHING we need to know about being a woman, wife, and mama is in this handy, dandy little guide book called the Bible?
For real. Check this out:
Proverbs 24:3-4 says, “A house is built by wisdom and becomes strong through good sense. Through knowledge, its rooms are filled with riches and valuables.”
- We can gain this knowledge and wisdom through reading the Word.
- This also is supported by Matthew 6:33, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
Proverbs 31:27 “She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. ”
- Some would tell you this means your house must always be spotless. That isn’t accurate. It says not to be lazy. It doesn’t say never take a rest. If we find a routine that works well with our own family’s schedules, we can watch our household and take care of it. Work a routine that works for YOU. What works for Perfect Peggy down the road probably won’t work for your family.
Proverbs 31:10 “A wife of noble character who can find? She is more precious than rubies.”
- Noble- Showing high moral principles; of excellent or superior quality
- We are to be of “noble character.” What does that mean? It means be a lady. Show some class. Be loving. How do we do that? We seek God. Remember Matthew 6:33?
Collossians 3:18 “Wives, submit to your husbands as is fitting to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
- I think this is one of the greatest disconnects between our society and the Bible. We are to SUBMIT to our husbands. That means that we don’t try to lead the family. We are not equipped for the job of protector and provider. Trust your husband to make the right decisions for your family. Give him your input. Discuss the situation as equals (you are, after all, equal in this marriage.) Then realize and trust his final decision. Knowing that you respect him enough to allow him and trust him to lead your family will immeasurably build him up.
- I have a SUPER big personality. Submission doesn’t come easily to me- bossiness does. I’m a leader-never have been a follower. But, ladies, we have to know that submission is NOT weakness. It’s strength. It’s trust. It’s allowing God’s perfect will to work in your family. It’s trusting the calling God has placed on your husband to lead your family.
- (Some mamas are thrust into this position and are the sole provider and protector of the family. To you, mamas, you will never know how much I admire and pray for you. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you. But know, God has a man who will love you and your babies as Christ loves the church. Dance with God, and He will let the right man cut in.)
Titus 2:7 says, “Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity and dignity…”
- What do we want our children to be? We need to be it. What do we want them to say? We need to say it. What do we want them to believe? We need to believe it.
Proverbs 22:15 “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.”
- This verse says discipline will drive away a lack of good sense.
- We are called to discipline our children. We are called to teach them how to be functioning, God-fearing adults.
- Again, Matthew 6:33 comes into play. Seek God on this. He will show you how to effectively teach and discipline your babies.
- I cannot suggest or recommend this book enough: Go buy The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman.
DISCLAIMER: I’m not saying to hit your kid with a big rod. That’s not what the Bible is saying either. Breathe.
This is by no means a comprehensive list of scriptures for women. These are just some of my favorite to remind me of who I am in Christ. The Bible leads us and guides us in how to be the women God has called us to be. Society tells us the exact opposite of that.
Ladies, all I’m saying is while Pinterest has some great resources, measure EVERYTHING against the Word of God and what the Bible says. God will show you how to live out His calling on your life.
Love to my loves,