On the Orlando “Gay” Nightclub Shooting

     Once again, here we are discussing a tragic loss of life. Someone had no regard for anyone but himself, was full of hatred, and took 50 lives. FIFTY. It’s absolutely unfathomable. Fifty families shattered by hatred. Fifty mothers who will never hold their child again. Fifty families who will forever be plaqued by guilt and what-ifs. Fifty friends whose lives were shortened and taken too soon from the friends around them. Fifty people who could have been beacons of light in a dark world. Fifty human beings whose full potential the world will never see because ONE PERSON decided they weren’t worthy of living life.    I can’t explain how much this hurts me. I can’t imagine how much these families are hurting. I can try, though. 

     Let me explain: On June 8th, my brother, Richard, would have been 25. It’s been five years since his death and it still hurts when that day rolls around. Richard was funny, sweet, kind, and sassy. Richard was also gay. And when he felt he could no longer deal with the condemnation, the ugliness, the hatred the world had to give him, he took his own life. He was 20 years old. TWENTY. I’ve thought many times of our conversations growing up: when he first started thinking he was gay, what his dad would say and do to him, what had happened to him in the past, and when he realized that God loved him despite his sins- a revelation I wouldn’t come to until later. This amazing Guy’s life, too, was cut short due to hatred and ugliness. 

    So when the world decides to shoot instead of love, condemn instead of redeem, and spew hatred every chance it gets, what’s a Christian to do? The answer is simple. 

Romans 12:2 says, “2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

So whatever the world is doing, we should be doing the opposite. We should being showing a community rocked by hatred and confusion that there is a God who loves them and died for them, FOR US, in spite of ourselves and our sin. 

   Do you curse, get drunk, say ugly things, judge, have sex outside marriage, take the Lord’s name in vain, overeat, gossip? The bible says in 1 John 1:10, “If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar and His word is not in us.” We have all sinned. So to use “righteous condemnation” to justify being ugly to the homosexual community is nothing short of hypocrisy. We ALL sin. No sin is greater than the other. Instead of acting like the world and either blindly accepting homosexuality or spewing hatred, why don’t we try something new? Let’s try the love of God. 

Let’s show that love right now to a community who is hurting, who has been targeted by worldly hatred and absolute rage and judgement. Let’s pray for them and with them. Let’s show them the mercy and grace of God. Let’s stand FOR them and WITH them as people, as creations of a mighty God and as Americans and BE THE LIGHT. 

We have an opportunity here to show something the Church has been missing for so long: compassion, mercy, and grace. Ask God to move your heart AND theirs. 

Show them He will comfort them. Allow Him to guide your steps, your words, and your prayers. 

Then, go out into the world and share the Gospel. 
**To family and loved ones left behind, I’m so, so sorry. I can’t explain to you how I’ve cried for you and with you. I pray you find peace. While it never goes away, it does get easier, but there will always be scar tissue there. There will also be memories of how you loved. 

Love to my loves, 

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What’s Wrong With the “Dumb Dad” Stereotype?

I came across a post on one of my new favorite blogs today regarding the way dads are treated/portrayed in modern society. Media tells us they’re incapable of anything more than making money and sitting on the couch passing gas. It is something that has ALWAYS irritated me.

Maybe it’s because my husband is incredibly capable of cooking, better at cleaning than I am, and VERY involved both with our girls (who have him wrapped) AND our marriage. In any case, check out Painting Arrows and the AWESOME post they’ve done addressing this very topic:

Mom Talk- In Defense Of Dads

Then, if you’re feeling groggy, leave them a comment letting them know you agree!

Its high time to encourage the men in our lives to be what God has called them to be and RECOGNIZE when they’re trying.


Love to my loves,


Is Your Heart Overwhelmed?

UNDAUNTED    This has been one heck of a week. And today, what is really on my heart is “Thank God it’s Sunday. This week is OVER!” Monday is a day to start fresh and kick butt coming right out the shoot. And while I like to think that’s exactly what I’m going to do, my heart is overwhelmed. I AM OVERWHELMED.

Between being wife, mom, a boutique owner, a youth worship leader, a blogger,  now that my license transfer from another state is FINALLY complete after 3 months of chaos, a REALTOR, this week got to me. Especially since it ended with me having a severe bladder infection and the baby a serious case of strepthroat. I. AM. EXHAUSTED.

I’ve been stealing away little pieces of time where I could this week to read and spend time with God- which MUST be the only reason I’m still sane. The book I’m reading (and have been reading for approximately one month due to my having to hide in order to read it for two whole minutes….MOM LIFE, YO!) is Christine Caine’s UNDAUNTED. The wisdom in this book is incredible, inspiring, and undeniable God-inspired. (Christine, if you’re reading this, I’m your number 1 fan. For real. My middle name is even Christine, which happened without my knowledge, but I’m SURE it’s a sign that we are destined to be besties. Call me!)

Something I saw while reading it this week that God apparently packed away in my mind until this precise moment when I feel like I’m going to explode is this:

Psalm 61:2.

Got it? Ok.

For as long as I can remember, it’s be like this: “When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” And that sounds lovely, doesn’t it? But, that’s actually completely out of context. So, in , I saw the whole verse, which reads like this: “From the end of the earth will I cry unto you, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I”.  Both say pretty much a similar thing. What I love is that when we read it in context, we see the psalmist saying, “God, I am at the ends of the earth, the end of my wits, pouring out my heart to you and it’s overwhelmed. LEAD ME! LEAD ME to a higher place I cannot see or reach on my own!”

And you know what? That is exactly what he does. He brings things to our remembrance (that we read days ago and haven’t thought about since) time we need them. Today, I have cried out, at wit’s end, overwhelmed, and he has brought me to a place of peace, which was so much more than I could achieve on my own in these chaotic moments. He listens. He hears. He wants to lead you to that place.

When you’re feeling as if you’re at the ends of the earth and you can’t go any further, cry out to him. He will set your feet on higher ground. Because He is good. HE IS.

Love to my loves,