Why I Won’t Be Saying “Happy Memorial Day!”

I’m not a big fan of the saying “Happy Memorial Day!”

I’m not sure in what way it is a happy day. Am I excited for a three-day weekend with my husband? You bet. We typically don’t get even a Two-day weekend. Do we grill out and have fun? Absolutely.

But while we are having fun spending time together and giving happy patriotic holiday greetings, another wife and mama just like me is fighting for her sanity today. She’s fighting to keep her head above water because the man she pledged to love “till death do us part” has parted from her way too soon. As the grocery store clerk tells her “Happy Memorial Day” she fights tears because to her, every day is Memorial Day as she desperately tries to help her young children remember the man who gave them life and liberty at the cost of his own.

It’s not happy for the father who will never see his daughter again or the mother who is raising her grandchildren because her daughter answered the call. For the mother giving birth today to a child who will never see the strength and love she saw in his father’s face. She will wrap him in a blanket today and pray it’s all a bad dream and he will walk through the door with flowers and they will be a family again. But he won’t.

He won’t. Because he gave his life so we could have the freedom to say what we want, no matter the cost. He died so we could stomp on our flag and drive through fields of memorial crosses. So we could abandon our veterans and ignore our God. He died so that we could violate the very Constitution he gave his life to uphold.

But she also died so that my babies could know what it is like to be carefree, if only for a while. So I can raise them to know their hope is in Jesus and He will get them through the hard times. So they will know they’re always protected.

I heard it said once that the only two people who have ever died to save us are Jesus and the American Soldier. And I know it’s true.

So, as I spend today with family, I will pray a little longer for those who can’t because they made sure I could, and that I never have to live in memorial to the two men in my life who have answered the call to duty.

And today, I will take the time to explain to my girls WHY we “celebrate” Memorial Day me why all give some, but SOME GIVE ALL.

Love to my Loves,



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The Extra 3%… A post for For Sale By Owners

Lately, I’ve run across a LOT of homeowners trying to sell their homes on their own. I really do commend you. Navigating the real estate market from showings to contracts to lenders and closings can be gut-wrenching if you don’t know the market or the way to go about things. Many think you just show your house and then sell it. And that’s KIND OF right. But before you can sell it, you have to draw contracts, check with lenders, show the house a million times, call the lender back, draw up more contracts, call the closing attorney, desperately try to get both lender and attorney to call back, have attorney check contracts, pass out in exhaustion, etc…

OK so the whole “pass out in exhaustion” thing might be a LITTLE dramatic, but it’s actually not.

PLUS you have to figure out a price for the home. Which means you have to somehow figure out what the market will support without access to market analyses or market information in general.


Don’t get me wrong, I love seeing homes sell EVEN IF I DON’T SELL IT. It’s part of my whole “love seeing people reach their goals” thing. I get a little ridiculously excited for people. Seeing people happy makes me happy. (On the other hand, I’m also a sympathetic cryer, so please don’t cry around me or we will BOTH need tissues.)

Typically, FSBOs offer the buyer’s agent 3% in commission. It’s an awesome idea, if you think about it. Avoid the listing agent’s cost and still have buyer’s agents bring in buyers.

But have you thought about marketing your home and how much time and money it could take? Sure, you can list on Zillow and Trulia, but they are highly unreliable and well-known for not being a good source of information. You can use Craigslist, but it is quickly becoming obsolete. So what’s left? Facebook? Only your friends will see the home.

So what does a Realtor have that you don’t? For starters, the MLS (multiple listing service). THis is where agent are looking for homes to show their buyers. Also, National brand websites. Check out my company’s website; BUYEXITNOW.com. My listings pop up on that website NATIONWIDE. Brand recognition is also a big factor, as well as seasoned agents (HELLO, THERE. I’m CATE!) who have repeat clients and referrals, as well as others in their large network they can bring to show your home. Text campaigns, video websites, etc. I could go on and on.

Navigating the real estate market can be so darn hard. And there are many people who successfully do it. It’s not impossible.

But when you need to get the job done, and you choose the right Realtor, we are certainly worth the extra 3%.

Puppy Client

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